Okay, truth time.
Do you talk badly about other people?
Do you ever gossip?
I must admit that, even as a somewhat mature Christian, there are times when I talk about other people. But only the ones that annoy me.
Here at The Parenting Dare, I spend a lot of my time thinking and writing about the bigger topics; family culture, conversion, identity, etc.
Today is not one of those days. This post is simple. But. It could actually radically change your life.
Do you dye your hair? If so, keep reading.
When I was in my 20’s I looked at 50-year old women and sort of pitied them in a nice way. They seemed busy. Overwhelmed.
I overheard conversations of 50-year old women. They were tied up in the lives of their teens and adult children. Their problems seemed sharp and searing.
I valued my freedom as a young adult; I loved being able to have fun and go wherever I wanted to go with whomever.
Fifty year old women seemed so stuck.
Scene from The Princess Bride: Westley is “mostly dead” and Miracle Max wants to know why Westley should live.
“HEY! Hello in there! Hey! What’s so important? Whatcha got here that’s worth living for?”
Miracle Max then presses on Westley’s chest and this comes out, “True Love.”
Inigo Montoya jumps in, “He said True Love. There’s not a more noble cause than that.”
I love this week. It’s Valentine’s Day Week!
We can easily get a commercialized version of love but today, I wanted to talk about you. How does love show up in your life? Where do you see it? How do you experience it? How do you give love?
“My daughter makes me insane,” a mother confided to a group I had joined. “She is the most difficult person I’ve ever met.”
The other mothers around the table made appropriate noises of understanding.
Someone asked her a specific question about her daughter and the mom gave a great example of how mean and uncaring her 20-year old daughter was
“Mom, what was your worst, most shameful moment in your eating journey?”
When I heard that question, I stopped what I was doing and got very still.
Eric, my adult son who does all the tech part of this blog and podcast, went on, “I love your post from Thursday, explaining what The Inside Out Journey is all about. Now tell a little more about your own journey. Give the real.”
Just so you all know, working with my 26-year old son is not always fun. He pushes me. It’s usually in the right direction, but still.
My worst moment with food? Well, first of all, I don’t think there was ever a bad moment WITH food. In fact, most of my food memories are fantastic. I am a foodie and I love food. Always have. Always will.
Grab a cup of coffee. I wanna chat a bit.
On Monday we opened the cart to our new course, Inside Out.
Several people have asked me if the course about food and somehow finding the willpower to eat a certain way. Um, no. In fact, I wrote about that in my last post: Why I’ve Renounced Diet Plans. It’s not about the food.
I made the decision. I was done with a relationship that I had been in for DECADES.
The feelings that ran through me? Relief. Excitement. Joy.
To cement my commitment, I set up an appointment with my pastor.
It is extremely easy to go throughout life without really connecting with another human being. I mean, yes, we can ask, “How are you?” and hear the quick, “Good, how are you?”
But it’s another thing altogether to CONNECT with others.
Okay, how does one truly connect with another? Well, there are a lot of ways, but one of the most powerful: through emotions.