Our Beginnings Were Like Yours

Lori here.  Don't you love my kiddos up there?!

I love being a mom. Especially now that my children are older and can dress, feed, and wipe themselves. I love love love being a mom. 
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I also love my Catholic faith. I KNEW that if I raised them in the faith, then they would make great decisions. 

Hey hey! Eric here :) 

I'm the oldest of Clan Doerneman.  Being the oldest is and always has been great.  But being the first one through the gate comes with almost as many pros as it does cons.

PRO: Mom doesn't have the experience so I can get away with more.  CON: Mom doesn't have the experience so I got away with more.

But things don't always go to plan

So, I was busy raising my family. You may understand what that's like. If you don't, imagine trying to make supper while breastfeeding while Nerf guns are attacking from all directions.  Hectic.

One night I went down to Eric's room. I opened the door to find more than I wanted to see. That totally blind-sided me. How could that happen in my home?

​That moment became a massive turning point, not just for my son and me, but for our family. My husband and I had a decision to make. Were we going to pretend that all was well here or were we willing to completely change our parenting? 

Mom never taught me how to handle my emerging sexuality as I started going through puberty.  So innocent and curious searches online for 'beautiful women' quickly took a turn for the worse.  

Yeah. Mom walked in on me looking at porn one night like halfway through high school. Darf. After years of hiding, I had been caught.

I need to say, or rather admit, that without the relationship I have built with my parents from that experience.... I would never have broken free of that silent addiction.

So we CHANGED.

We made the decision to change everything. I did tons of research and started parenting on purpose.
Here's what surprised me the most. THE KIDS. They totally appreciated the way I authentically built into them and guided them.

THEY asked me to reach out to other parents and teach THEM how to effectively communicate with THEIR kids about these more delicate topics.
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I prayed about it. I reached out to a lot of people. They told me their stories. This is what startled me: Porn affects everyone. And parents were like me. They didn't know. Until it was too late.

It's fascinating being a millennial because EVERY SINGLE PERSON has either seen porn or looks at it all the time. That in mind, it was never weird when I'd talk to my friends about this topic.  What was unique was how I mentioned that my parents were helping me through it.

Some friends dropped their jaw. Some mentioned how cool that was. Some just shook their head. But everyone agreed in saying they would never talk to their parents.

This is when the real issue was highlighted in my mind. Parents and their children don't have real and authentic relationships. The unconditional love is not mutually understood. It's just surface.

We've Started a Movement.

I will be completely honest with you. I am 50 years old and I have more years behind me than ahead. I want to use my remaining years wisely. Porn is a massive problem in our culture and I want to be an agent of change. It is everywhere. I know the problem and I have experienced the solution.

We will only change the culture if we reach parents BEFORE their child is exposed. It takes guts to parent so REAL. Together, we can do this. Together, we will dare to parent.

Mom told me she wanted to teach parents how to be real, how to love like Jesus loved, how to parent with a pro-active mindset.

I surprised her by telling her that I was going to stand at her side and help her CRUSH this. (She's not exactly computer savvy. Doesn't know the different between a Windows and a Mac. She.needs.me.)

Our goal is big. Change the World. Remove porn.  

We Can Only Succeed Together!

LORI (and Russ!)

Eric