“Lori, how am I supposed to make it through high school with my daughter? She makes me crazy. She is so mean to everyone and she doesn’t care.”
Two mom friends asked me this question last week.
I think there are a lot of reasons that teenage girls are difficult. But guess what?
When it comes time for them to graduate from high school, we are able to let them go to college.
So I think their angst and their sulkiness might just serve a biological purpose: they must first grow AWAY from us so they can grow up away from us.
If they stayed as sweet as they were in third grade we wouldn’t want them to leave. But they turn into a raging little Me Me Me Queen and it’s pretty exciting to see them leave. Honey, let me help you pack.
In today’s podcast, Rachel will share how unhappy (..... I really just want to be unfiltered and say 'bitchy' here) she was in high school. This is her first day of her senior year:
Mitch, pretending to be pleased and happy about his happy sister.
She courageously shares her personal journey with you and I love it so much because her story totally showcases healing/identity/mission, which is what this blog and podcast is all about.
Now, on most weeks I will have a nicely written blog post that will coincide with the podcast. However, there will be some weeks where I want you to listen to the podcast version. This week is one of those weeks.
You gotta HEAR her story.
P.S. I will also admit, reluctantly, that I didn’t handle my daughter that well. And sometimes I perpetuated her bad behavior. Sigh.
HOWEVER, when I knew better I did better. And my next two daughters, age 15, are super fun to be around. They are happy and well-adjusted. Thus far. Their senior year might hit like a truck, but for now, it’s actually easy peasy lemon squeezy.
To see how I handled them differently than Rachel, join me on The Daughter Dare, a free mini-course for moms to connect with their daughters.